Our bubble was burst on Saturday night with the intrusion of the phone on the dot of 11 o'clock. 'You need to be home. Your baby is screaming. "Papy, Papy, I want Papy". She can't sleep without you here'.
And on and on it went. And I stood in my own kitchen with this intruder on the phone making the Delivery Boy squirm as he tried to sedate her. He has made his pact. If he is not home by 11 every single night, his baby will be pinched awake until he returns.
Why is she doing this? What does she WANT? If every human being in the universe sat down and rationally asked themselves this question at the fundamental level,we would soon be rid of games and war. What DOES she want? She doesn't love him so she doesn't want him home to hold in her arms while she talks about her day. And even if she did, he doesn't love her and what woman wants a man who doesn't love her?
Argentine women validate themselves with a man. She is living within the lie of convenient fiction - 'I have a man and a child therefore I am worthwhile'. So she has what she wants. He has made his pact to live the convenient fiction of the nuclear family. He has compromised what he and I have in order to keep his baby secure. She has what she WANTS but she still needs to torture him and her child to satisfy her ego desires.
What she wants now is cable TV and a washing machine. If he gives her those will she get off the phone?
He used to switch off his phone before he lost it (somewhat conveniently) in a boliche but that was when the meltdowns really began. Now he is keeping everything tranquilo.
Posted by: suzy vegas | August 07, 2008 at 11:41 AM
Why doesn't he just not answer when she calls? I suppose there would be hell to pay when he gets home, but maybe he could eventually cure her by not ever answering her calls.
Posted by: Alex | August 07, 2008 at 10:15 AM
Hey There!
Check your email - Not sure if you got my email yesterday - ready to get going with your design!
Shauna
Posted by: shauna | August 05, 2008 at 04:26 PM