Emotionally Unavailable Men - Part 3857

This has been a funny old day. In terms of Single Girl managing Emotionally Unavailable Man, it's been maybe 8 on the richter scale - not as bad as when your Child's Father snatches Him and accuses you of heiniousity so that he can get him across the U.S. (obviously) border, but really kind of crap as in Single GIrl Trying to be Less Commitmentphobic, learn about self and be zen-loving to all men (no matter how obviously f/cked up they may be).

Funny because on the very same day that I suffered this humiliating dating escapade with an Argentine man, the publisher of the fantastic new, all bells and whistles English Newspaper told me that her American editor in Buenos Aires said that my column 'Single Girl  in Argentina' was too harsh on men. Even although it's an English newspaper, they want Argentines to read it and the Argentines wouldn't care for its attitude to men. Could I re-write it to be less ABUSIVE to men - Argentine men. I capitalize (against Journalism 101 rules) because this very tardy piece of 'Editing' (quotation marks also not acceptable in 101 unless about to cite) feedback from the publisher plops into my English Journalism in-box on the very same day that I arrive in Salta and the man who last night sent me a msg saying 'My Love can you come up here next week. My brother is going to Brazil and has lent me his apartment in Tucuman - Translation being - Honey, I know I told you last week that I couldn't get time off but this week we have a kinky love nest so I'll make an effort'.

And when I msg him to say I am here, in Salta, ready for the kinky love-nest-iness to begin, he ignores me the entire day and I am sat here on a Friday night being sad (or even.in all honesty. humiliated) while he is trying to juggle the latest tourist he's hit on and thinking up the latest excuse for zen-thinking me except that the wonderful Salta couchsurfers are coming out tonight - at 24.00.

And on top of those two romantic net-faults, today was the day that one of my regular blog marketing mails plopped in from Christian Carter, talking about 'How To Get Him Addicted To You Again'. And normally I think Christian Carter is the only way to go in Dating Drama internet-guru coaching except that after today I think that 'F/ck it - How many books are there in the self-help section advising men how to create a great relationship? NONE'.

Any 'relationship' or 'dating' book directed at men is like the Mystery plan advising how to seduce a woman in two easy moves (Ha - the guy that sold it to me has nothing on the DB or the BD, neither of whom followed anything close to the 'rules', Hell the idea that there were any rules outside of their own solipsistic desires would have been front page news to them. Mystery guys take note - No decent woman will enjoy being touched on the arm or shoulder more than once unless she is already on the hook and she defo won't take to being insulted unless she is on the hook to you and flopping on deck- make SURE the woman is hanging securely through the eyeball (floating off down the path of her slightly narcissistic fantasies rather than seeing you for the twat you really are) before you start with the psychological abuse. Hmmm- Tricky. My next $500 How-to download will be 'How to Know When A woman is Securely Hooked and You can Start With EMotional Abuse'

At least I read my own posts and maintain a zen mind of 'Hurt or Anger or Disappointment is only the realisation of not getting what you want. I came here not wanting anything, just to discover- and so now I know - so although I am feeling what I am feeling - This Too Shall Pass.

If I had a bandoneon to accomapny that story, it would be a tango.

Comments

[Justine]

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[Suzy]

jajaja Alex. I bailed on this tonteria before the fucknest could begin. I am nobody's sex toy. And it is better now - I understand that there is a yin to the Emotionally Unavailable man

[alex]

so did you get to play in the fucknest? or will that be coming along in part 3858?

all obtuse humor aside...i wish i could make it all better...