Bad Boys - Do They Really Exist?

We women are strange creatures – What would Darwin make of the current configuration of females? Maybe there has been a disruption in the gene pool.

 

I too am tired of all this talk of unavailable men but it isn’t going away soon. And everyone in a good-enough relationship with a man says we bring it on ourselves or we are attracted to Bad Boys but humans need connection. I don’t want to get married or even live with a man but the beauty of connection with someone is a thing that generates life – There is only so much of it you can produce from within, with your art, your movement, your intellect and your self-esteem.

 

From where did this label Bad Boy emerge? When I was young (and I was touring with rock bands when I was 16) a Bad Boy was a rocker or the group’s manager or a rich playboy who drove around London in an E-type Jag and only dated dancers. Now they’re all bloody Bad Boys – Bus Drivers, Delivery Boys (actually he’s a carpenter), sofa salesmen, plumbers, waiters – shall I go on? In the old days we knew who a Bad (Play) Boy was and we enjoyed them – now they’re all bad boys and we don’t even get to have any fun.

 

But a woman is convinced of a man’s potential – she idealizes the man because if she has given him her body then he in turn has got to be of value. And they dangle us and we keep dangling thinking they are going to see how amazing we are. Not many species in the natural world hang around like this. The female crab only shakes off her shell once a year and leaves herself exposed to the male. Smarter female species eat their lovers after sex. Even smarter species make homes and lives together and just let the men come over and have sex with them.

 

Anyone want to start a new species? Or should I say reinvigorate the one we’ve got?

Comments

[Arlene]

I love how you mention a man's potential. Like he wouldn't be someone without us. That is our fatal mistake as women. We do not see the men as they really are and in our own conceit we think that if we were a part of their lives, it would be better for them. How arrogant is that?
Our lives will only get better when we do things that fulfil us and when we see a relationship as a bonus to an already fulfilling life, something we can take or leave because we want to rather than because we need it.