Emotionally Unavailable - women at war

Here’s a good one – I just found out I am Pimping my lover! Of all the things we women put ourselves through, this one is seriously absurd.

I decided to send an Email. We only communicate Raul and I, by text – it’s his preferred method of maintaining distance in between intense bouts of amor. Push/pull. Pull/push. It might be obvious that I’m rather wordy so of course the text is the perfect method of shutting me up. In my new way of insistence upon managing things clearly (which is going to be the end of us because committment phobes cant stand communication - they dont want to be known, it's too vulnerable), I composed an Email stating how I felt without blame in the best Manspeak I could muster.

When I got to the café (because 6 months in I STILL don’t have internet at home) the universe smiled on me and a past lover had sent a lovely supportive mail. I sent mine to Raul and although I don’t think I am going to be heard (According to ‘Stalking the Soul’ what the narcissistic abuser hates most is communication and being known) at least I have expressed myself. Honestly, clearly, no blame and with love thanks to the friendly input from the ex. Honestly – clearly – do men hear that or do they see hysteria – manipulation, whatever else they need for distance? No matter what you say there’s never ‘No blame’ because they always hear their mothers.

Then I went to the Salta forum on a famous travel site to respond to some posts. And I find a woman saying she agrees with me that Raul is indeed the most wonderful guide in Salta. And I am sorry to say that now I can’t resist stalking through her other posts and feeling fatal when I find that virtually every one of them extols his virtues BUT the first post thanks me for recommending him. Which I only did because we started this tour company together. And then she posts a recommendation for the hotel that his friends owns and where he puts his seductees because he can stay there and still feel in control. And then she’s posting her own recommendations saying that when people contact him don’t forget to say SHE sent them.

Here is a woman who’s obsessed. He’s put her in his hotel. She cant stop saying how fantastic he is to the entire World and she keeps coming back to Salta from Buenos Aires – No Doubt getting all those ‘Mi Amor, no puedo dejar de pensar en vos, cuando vuelves?’ texts that make her feel like the most adored thing in the universe. Thing is – I’m here and he keeps telling me I’m the only important thing in his life.

If anyone reads this – Please, please, please send me a message telling me I am an IDIOT and I need to break this guy’s hold on my life. If I need to move to Italy to do it, I WILL.  

Comments

[suzy vegas]

Penegra - They were ousted from their independence by men returning from battle and wanting their jobs back. You were almost spat on for working and taking a man's job when you ought to get married and let a working man support you. Yeugh - sounds like living in Nordelta suburb of BsAs

[Penegra]

What is the main reason the majority of women war workers left the labor force at the end of World War II?

[valtrex online]

Has anyone read the book "Women at War: Five women who defired the Nazis and Survived?
Or do you know a place where I can see what it is about? I have to do a paper on Women and world war II and I need to know if this book is worth requesting from the library.

[suzy vegas]

Alex you gave me such a good laugh last night that I have not enjoyed in a long time - Thank you
Tina - You have no idea how much I am thinking about it. I would give anything to feel an oyster sashaying around my mouth

[Tina]

Move to Italy! :-)

[Zool]

You are NOT an Idiot - You are everything and more that was in that email. Dump him, and run as far as possible from him. SELF LOVE!

[Alex]

You're not an idiot. You're a Goddess.

Dump him.